Mr. Caltech: married women are perceived as culturalized and desexualized
Woman-to-be: so, is marriage a culture without sex?
Mr. Caltech: i don't know, but it is perceived that way. by men, and maybe women too.
Mr. Caltech: a tragedy. dreadful indeed.
Well, take it simple this way: I am trying to attend more cultural events in hanoi instead of delving myself into the matters of relationships, and sex (no academic reference given). But the words of this Mr. Caltech really strikes me. What does it really mean by "culturalized" and "desexualized", letting aside the use of affixes? Is marriage really a culture that imposes on women the unwritten, dispensable rules. But at first, what are these rules anyway? Is there a discipline or regulation that all wives' schools teach about in "wifehood" - the status and being of a wife to a man, regardless of what male-type he is categorized into?
Saturday, August 8, 2009
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It can be a nice experience and a nice time to (learn to) get along with family from both sides. :) And being well-prepared is always good. ;)
What does the DDM mean by "culturalized?" does he mean to say married women become a prototypical image of culture? If so, I wonder if that statement even makes any sense since no one can really escape being "culturalized." isnt everyone a participant of cultural identities of a society in one way or another?
and how about his comment on married women becoming "desexualized"? Come on. Getting old i is a GENERIC (and natural) phenomenon to all of humans, not particular to women. i think (and it is a common sense) charm of individuals resides not in sexuality but in who they are.
I find DDM's perspective on marriage parochial, predominantly sexiest, and overly self-conscious of being a "man"!
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